Archive | January 2017

Women & The Boys They Raise

Why when a girl does something odd by the standards set by a patriarchal society, one filled with hatred and prejudice for/towards women and girls, they blame all the ancestral women of that girl/woman on her deeds?!

The deed can be very trivial , but made into a gigantic stuff by the society we have mentioned above, and because the person being accused is simply a woman/girl?

Ever heard Beyonce song ‘If I Were A boy?’,  in one of the lines she says ( And I’d never get confronted for it),  it’s true men do all horrors and we clap our hands for them, and then let them get away with everything!

Why when a woman/girl tells a man about her feelings or that he is handsome she is labelled as ‘Loose’?

Why that same man/boy who labelled that girl as ‘Loose/Nut’ case for expressing her feelings is labelled as ‘Manly/Courageous’ for being able to express himself/feeling or doing whatever he wants?!

I’ve seen many boys/men yelling ‘Am a man/boy’ I can do what I want, where is that written? In the ‘Holy Book or Constitution’?

Oh, speaking about the constitutions/laws, did you know that in some Muslim countries men can walk away with sentences for adultery and women can simply be falsely accused, and the sole witness can be only the husband, she can be be framed because her husband feels so, or because she caught him doing a nasty thing and hence he turned the table against her! So sometimes even the constitution/law can be against women/girls!

Why does a society has double standards, one for girls/women; which in most cases is cruel /unjust , and then kinda of soft/merciful one for men/boys?!

And how did those women who have seen so much injustice, hatred, prejudice, other ill from their societies end raising the men/boys we see everywhere committing many horrors?!

And how did the boy who have seen what his Mama had went through, do all such ill towards other women/girls?! A mama who was/is denied from all her rights, humanity and whom had been subjected to many ill and wrong!

How didn’t he end fighting for women/girls rights, and ended joining the rest of the society in committing human rights violations towards women and girls?!

Women pay attention for the boys/men you’re raising, for they can become the men whom later on many women will be suffering from, same also goes for the world.

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Quotes

“…falling in love could be achieved in a single word—a glance.”

“A person is, among all else, a material thing, easily torn and not easily mended.”

“Nothing that can be, can come between me and the full prospect of my hopes.”

 

 

― Ian McEwan, Atonement

 

 

I loved the movie, & it made me cry like hell!

 

Quote

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.

 

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Tough & Ambitious Vs Balance & Fairness

I always ask people to be ‘TOUGH & AMBITIOUS’ & demand it from myself, I tell myself to be tough & ambitious, but I don’t want to be so tough & ambitious that I lose sight & have so much regrets later in life on any aspects within my life.

Maybe this kind of thinking was inspired to be by many very successful figures that had regrets at later stages of their lives for the way they had led their lives. We`may envied them for what they represented, in our eyes they embodied the peak of human achievement, happiness,success & were making tons of money, that is what we saw from outside, but what was happening inside was very different; they had epic battles taking place.

The biggest regret people have very late at/in their lives has something to do with ‘Human Relationships’; walking away from the love of your life because it wasn’t the right time, being absent from the birth of your child, or during your child’s first soccer game/dance/party/graduation or whatever activity or thing that was very important to them and they needed you there to celebrate their success, but you decided not to show up due to the head ruling you over matters of love. Same goes for not being there for your significant other.

You will discover at your death bed that it was your loved ones who will really make/made all the difference, not all your incredible achievements, successes, wealth, and all those stuff.

Am not saying we should be less ambitious, but try to make a balance, and pray that God gives us insight on what really matters.

In Islam we have a hadith narrated from the prophet (PBUH) that says “You have a duty to your Lord, you have a duty to your body, and you have a duty to your family, so you should give each one its rights.” , so what we need is to make balance, be fair, & give all parties their rights.

Juices

READ

If you ever want to become a great writer,

Extra reading,

Plenty of reading

Is the juices for WRITING

 

As plenty ‘Juices’ is also the vehicle

For smooth  (Love Making)

 

 

So you see (MAKING LOVE  & WRITING)

All need juices to happen…

 

Madam Mad Mullah

Her life is CREEPY & CRAPPY

Who did this to her?

Was it a ‘Deliberate Choice’?

Or was it sanctioned upon her?

20 children she did breed

Who all have dark futures ahead of them

She got no time to teach them manners

To discipline them

Or make human beings out of them

She turned the little angels into beasts

Who spend their days quarreling, yelling & turning everything around them into complete disaster

Does she teach them anything?!

Reading?

Writing?

Singing?

Painting?

Dancing?

Living?

Had she ever

Played

Laughed

Sang

Danced

With them

Does she invest in them?

What does she want them to become when they grow up?!

Like her?!

Or like their daddy?!

If she gonna do a lousy job, why have them in the first place?!

Maybe there’re no plan to have them at all

Oh! But nature did win here,

You see how it went & goes in some places & other similar places, is like this;

After the ‘Mad Mullah’ returns home from his crusades

She lays in bed awaiting him with her legs parted

& With no love at all,  he buries his shaft inside her

Next thing she gets pregnant one time after another

& the cycle goes on like this till her death

Or till she escapes from such HELL

The dad (Mad Mullah) is never home

Knows nothing of the kids

Is absent from all activities concerning them

Doesn’t got time for her or the little babies

He spends more time with strangers than them

He arrives home when the little babies are asleep

Goes out when they’re still in bed

He even have forgotten their names, how they look & how many they are!

SHE’S A SINGLE MOTHER EVEN IF SHE DENIES IT!

She does all the ROLES(MOMMY & DADDY ROLES)

& she had failed in both ROLES

 

 

One wonders does she got a life?

Is she allowed to have a life?

 

 

It’s not just her who lives like this

This is the story of millions of WOMEN like her

You Have Only One Option; To Win

We all have heard many of the following quotes:

Don’t pray that God makes your battles easier, but pray that he make you stronger.

If there’s a will, there’s a way.

Whether you think you can do something/anything, or not, you’re right either way. Henry Ford

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I — I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. “The Road Not Taken“, Robert Frost.

But how many of us really apply them?!

Puts the theory into action?!

Now think of this:

What were the chances of each one of the following people making a WIN (Joan of Arc & Muhmet Al-Fatteh )? Both were even very young at the time during their quests.

Susan Boyle ( With her age, zero experience, modest looks & many other elements)?

But each group won despite all the odds/obstacles/challenges against them.

Muhammed Ali mentioned the following ‘”I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.’”

So maybe the most difficult path is the one that may lead us to live honorable, satisfying, extraordinary & dignified lives. It may lead us to live as ‘HEROES/CHAMPIONS’ for the rest of our lives.

Obstacles can always be there, they can be there naturally or because someone else had created them for you;may be created by those who fear your success & your enemies, but then, will you declare defeat and give up?!

You can tackle any obstacle, and if you are very wise & try to make each problem you may face into an opportunity, you gonna win. Think of the creators of ‘The Post It Notes’, & how they turned things around into an invention that most of us can’t live without it!

(http://www.todayifoundout.com/index.php/2011/11/post-it-notes-were-invented-by-accident)

Actually with a very solid sound reasonable plan/decision nothing is impossible.  Some even had created their own slogans; IMPOSSIBLE ACTUALLY MEANS I’M POSSIBLE.

If you were leading a team and you face a storm, how would you have overcame such obstacle/problem?!

Me:

I wouldn’t allow my team to go sip tea and relax till the storm passes, I’ll make them go through the storm and win.

What about you?!

You, Me & everyone else should change our mindsets to ones focused on SUCCEEDING & WINNING, and repeat this every single second of our lives:

I’VE ONLY ONE OPTION; TO WIN.