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God Save Us From Ourselves

I was listening to a renowned scholar talking about the aim of marriage, and couldn’t stop myself from trying to find out if everyone or majority of folks share his same views on the purpose of marriage, so:

Do you think that the most important aims of marriage are just ‘Companionship and breeding’?!

If your answer is yes, I think you are depriving and denying yourself from experiencing one of the most beautiful and noble emotions that has ever existed ‘Love’, and you are not doing yourself justice because you have a right to seek love, be loved and give love to your loved one.

I always loved that part of the ‘Christian/Western’ wedding vows when couples say to one another ‘To Love and Cherish!’

Just as my love to God makes me bear whatever tests he puts me through and maintain my faith, loving your other half enables you to stand solid throughout your relationship with them and face everything with them happily and firmly be it (Illness, poverty, challenge, hardship and obstacle.)

A book, cat, dog, gardening, your friends, TV, work or even yourself if you enjoy solitude can provide you with company, it is not a very wise step to marry someone because you are looking for company!

We are not machines or robots to let go of our emotions; the great ones like love, and just to your knowledge they are making now robots that can express emotions and give back love to their owner!

In Islam when describing the relationship between spouses the lord says ‘و جعلنا بينكم مودة و رحمة, meaning (and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts)), I think all religions place so much great emphasis upon love.

I have heard a number of folks especially accomplished men who place a great emphasis when talking about marriage on the ‘Companionship and breeding’ side, and from my perspective I regard this as unfair for those in favour of such notions and their partners.

Lack of love will make us commit many inhumane and uncivilized actions against our partners; can you imagine what unloving spouse can do to their partner if the relationship fails?!

Some who lack the courage and love to inform their partner face to face that the relationship isn’t working anymore can choose to send that via a TWEET!

Let us mend our relationships and perspectives and choose love over anything else every time!

Finally, I don’t know where we are heading to when we subtract love from the equation of life and marriage, may God save us from ourselves!

Eating the Other: Desire & Resistance-Bell Hooks

 

To make one’s self vulnerable to the seduction of difference, to seek an encounter
with the Other, does not require that one relinquish forever one’s mainstream
positionality. When race and ethnicity become commodified as resources for pleasure,
the culture of specific groups, as well as the bodies of individuals, can be seen as
constituting an alternative playground where members of dominating races, genders,
sexual practices affirm their power-over in intimate relations with the Other.

Why Are Men Becoming More Interested in The Fight Against FGM?

Hi Pals:
Here’s a link to a draft am working on, those of you on ‘Academia.edu‘ may I have your feedback.

Thanks.

 

 

https://www.academia.edu/30917563/Why_Are_Men_Becoming_More_Interested_in_The_Fight_Against_FGM_By_Samia_Hassan

When ‘Cock’ met ‘Cunt’!

There’s no depth in many of the relationships taking place around us anymore, commitment and having a meaningful relationship are off the table. How hot a couple might be feeling towards each other is linked temporarily to that moment they are in; when both of are in the state of being ‘HORNY’, and that particular moment when both of them are ‘AROUSED’ beyond control and the mind seems foggy and the one remedy and solution is to F***! No wonder that some marriages now last about two, three months & sometimes less than that! There were no solid foundations those relationships were built on, other than that burning desire,  no one knows why they had chosen their partner!

It’s just a mating and an intercourse taking place between a ‘COCK’ & a ‘CUNT’,  and when they are done, and their hunger has subsided they see no reason to prolong the relationship or take it to another level. It’s not a relationship that is meant to be a ‘FOREVER’.

After both had went their separate ways what if that cock and cunt are feeling starved once again and hunger is eating them alive?! What happens then?! I don’t know, but maybe they will repeat the cycle with other cocks and cunts, and they will be living in that cycle where long term relationships, commitment, family, love and marriage becomes of less importance and everyone is hooked on getting between/under sheets and to just do it!

Erotica Vs Erotic Romance

People engage in sex, may watch sex on TV. or may come across it online, in all those settings it seems okay for people to be exposed to sex, but if they come across it in literature that is another story; then it is doomsday especially in societies who represent themselves and praise themselves for being religious !

There are many genres of writing and two genres in particular that I want to discuss are ( Erotica & Erotic Romance), just search for those topics online and you will notice that even the west that praises itself for being (Free Societies) there is an ongoing heated debate!  Most romance writers or those who write about the sexual lives of their characters are engaged in a fight to clear their names (Don’t call me a……. writer), so you can then understand what some writers at very strict and conservative societies are facing when they write about the sexual lives of their characters.

So let us explain the main difference between each genre:

 

Erotica

In her blog author Maree Anderson mentions that ‘Erotica’ is derived from Greek word erōtikos that goes way back other words erōs or erōtos which mean ‘Love’!

Then she states that the emphasis of such genre is ‘Sexual Journey/Exploration’ than on ‘Developing Relationships’.

Lime Cello states that in ‘Erotica’ there is no need for a happy ending and it is about sex between characters.

Author Sorcha Grace claims that ‘Erotica’ has sometimes a ‘Happy Ever After’.

Erotica Romance

So for starters ‘Erotic Romance’ focuses on the romantic relationships between the characters and focuses on the ‘Happy Ever After’. The love relationship of the characters develops through sex.

Author Sylvia Day describes it as ‘stories written about the development of a romantic relationship through sexual interaction.’ She then goes on saying that you cannot remove the sex without damaging the storyline and it must has a HEA.

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