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Eating the Other: Desire & Resistance-Bell Hooks

 

To make one’s self vulnerable to the seduction of difference, to seek an encounter
with the Other, does not require that one relinquish forever one’s mainstream
positionality. When race and ethnicity become commodified as resources for pleasure,
the culture of specific groups, as well as the bodies of individuals, can be seen as
constituting an alternative playground where members of dominating races, genders,
sexual practices affirm their power-over in intimate relations with the Other.

Why Are Men Becoming More Interested in The Fight Against FGM?

Hi Pals:
Here’s a link to a draft am working on, those of you on ‘Academia.edu‘ may I have your feedback.

Thanks.

 

 

https://www.academia.edu/30917563/Why_Are_Men_Becoming_More_Interested_in_The_Fight_Against_FGM_By_Samia_Hassan

When ‘Cock’ met ‘Cunt’!

There’s no depth in many of the relationships taking place around us anymore, commitment and having a meaningful relationship are off the table. How hot a couple might be feeling towards each other is linked temporarily to that moment they are in; when both of are in the state of being ‘HORNY’, and that particular moment when both of them are ‘AROUSED’ beyond control and the mind seems foggy and the one remedy and solution is to F***! No wonder that some marriages now last about two, three months & sometimes less than that! There were no solid foundations those relationships were built on, other than that burning desire,  no one knows why they had chosen their partner!

It’s just a mating and an intercourse taking place between a ‘COCK’ & a ‘CUNT’,  and when they are done, and their hunger has subsided they see no reason to prolong the relationship or take it to another level. It’s not a relationship that is meant to be a ‘FOREVER’.

After both had went their separate ways what if that cock and cunt are feeling starved once again and hunger is eating them alive?! What happens then?! I don’t know, but maybe they will repeat the cycle with other cocks and cunts, and they will be living in that cycle where long term relationships, commitment, family, love and marriage becomes of less importance and everyone is hooked on getting between/under sheets and to just do it!

Erotica Vs Erotic Romance

People engage in sex, may watch sex on TV. or may come across it online, in all those settings it seems okay for people to be exposed to sex, but if they come across it in literature that is another story; then it is doomsday especially in societies who represent themselves and praise themselves for being religious !

There are many genres of writing and two genres in particular that I want to discuss are ( Erotica & Erotic Romance), just search for those topics online and you will notice that even the west that praises itself for being (Free Societies) there is an ongoing heated debate!  Most romance writers or those who write about the sexual lives of their characters are engaged in a fight to clear their names (Don’t call me a……. writer), so you can then understand what some writers at very strict and conservative societies are facing when they write about the sexual lives of their characters.

So let us explain the main difference between each genre:

 

Erotica

In her blog author Maree Anderson mentions that ‘Erotica’ is derived from Greek word erōtikos that goes way back other words erōs or erōtos which mean ‘Love’!

Then she states that the emphasis of such genre is ‘Sexual Journey/Exploration’ than on ‘Developing Relationships’.

Lime Cello states that in ‘Erotica’ there is no need for a happy ending and it is about sex between characters.

Author Sorcha Grace claims that ‘Erotica’ has sometimes a ‘Happy Ever After’.

Erotica Romance

So for starters ‘Erotic Romance’ focuses on the romantic relationships between the characters and focuses on the ‘Happy Ever After’. The love relationship of the characters develops through sex.

Author Sylvia Day describes it as ‘stories written about the development of a romantic relationship through sexual interaction.’ She then goes on saying that you cannot remove the sex without damaging the storyline and it must has a HEA.

Reference:

Female Arousal

Arousal in general can be due to a stimuli be it mental or physical, & the internal variation of hormones. Sexual arousal has many stages.

 

What may make men aroused differs from what makes women aroused, from my readings many studies had been done in labs to find out what turns on each sex, some studies had shown that heterosexual men were turned on from merely watching sexual activity going on between (a man & a woman), on the other hand one study states that some women were turned on from watching sexually activity taking place between (women & animals), but the study didn’t exactly specify or state what was the sexual preference for those women.

 

I also came across another expert that mentions the following ‘Physical arousal isn’t a proof that a woman is turned on & that in order to get a woman hot & bothered, you have to start from top.

 

So what makes a woman turned on? This varies from one woman to another; it’s unique for each one, more like how each individual has their own finger print, preferences, & also sexual experience. It’s also important & worth mentioning that women do vary in the amount of time needed in order for them to be fully aroused, this can range from 20 to 45 minutes.

 

 

There’s one key hormone which plays an important factor in female sexual drive although it might be thought of as a man hormone (TESTOSTERONE), this is a very important hormone for female sexual drive & also for arousal (It’s said that there’re still studies taking place to determine the importance of the hormone for female sexual drive), & as women grow older their bodies produce half the amounts that it used to produce when they were younger. Absence of or low amounts of testosterone in women is said to lead to low sex drive according to some studies.

 

According to one Relationship Counsellor and Sex Therapist there’re four types of female arousal:

  • The Sensual Type
  • The Cognitive Type
  • The Intimacy Type
  • The Attractor Type

 

Females can also suffer from various forms of arousal disorders.

 

Reference:

  1. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/petra-zebroff/sexual-arousal-types-what-is-yours_b_1945808.html
  2. http://www.healthywomen.org/content/article/hormones-desire?page=2
  3. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_arousal
  4. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-sex-and-babies/201105/why-do-women-get-physically-aroused-and-not-even-know-it