The art of marriage isn’t so hard to master!
Our grand parents and older generations had mastered it, and were able to stay in loving, strong and stable relationships that spanned over decades!
They didn’t have much of the ease that this generations have access to, their lives were so simple, homes small but they had lives larger than life, they built cities that is the envy of all, fought wars and have won it that today’s generations with all the technology and machine advances they have are unable to win!(With all the advances in equipment that the most advance militaries have access to now but something is not right in their psyche, mind and will their foe had defeated them emotionally, spiritually, psychology and mentally and they are already defeated even before they have stepped a foot in the battlefield!), the advanced tank and machine will not help a person that is not right emotionally, spiritually, psychology and mentally!
There were substance and meaning in the lives of older generations, its true our generation is facing great inequalities, injustices and inhumanity but did our lives become like ‘The Fast Foods’ that they serve us; it will ease your hunger for a couple of hours but on the long run it will take its toll on you on every level and you will be robbed of all of the precious things!
Generations that puts their parents and grand parents at elderly care centers will not have lasting, meaningful and happy lives!(Take Japan for example with all the ease in life and advances they have they suffer from a wide range of troubles and elders re treated harshly and beg their kids to just come visit them at the elderly care centers just once every months!(How can we do this to our own and expect the Lord Almighty to be in our aid?!)
This is ‘The Age of Mass Divorce’, in every country Muslim and non-Muslim they suffer from high divorce rates, the whole world is at courts to settle divorce disputes! Why is this generation that have things that were not available for older generation unable to build and keep a family? Yet the generations before them who had fewer things were better than them in that?
In the theory of evolution, there is this theory that states:
‘Males will select younger females, and females will select males with resources.’
I think it’s true for males, because they are looking for a female they can dominate, cancel her identity, dictate for her her aspirations and how she should think and behave, but I totally disagree that women’s criteria for selecting a mate is based on his access and possession of resources, or how will you explain cases like the following :
-Princess Diana of Wales
-Princess Haya of Jordan
-MacKenzie Scott Jeff Bezos wife
-Cécilia Attias who left former French president Sarkozy (All those women left the most wealthy and powerful men in the world)
Women aren’t after men’s wealth, they have to come with a better argument! And if you think your money will keep a free woman hostage to you as you are a ‘Boko Haram leader’ you are dead wrong!
Men’s problems is they behave like kids; they think a woman is a toy that should be added to the arsenal of their possessions that they brag about to the other boy kids of the clubs they affiliate with!
And when a problem arises in their marriages which is a normal thing in all healthy relationships, they think the remedy is another woman or an affair! No, fix your problems, don’t add more problems and create new ones!
And perhaps what men need is not a new woman but ‘A New Version of themselves’, like all the requests that we get on our technological devices; ALL YOU NEED IS AN UPDATE! They say change how you see things, and the things you complaint about will change, that constant voice in your head that says something is wrong with your wife IS DEVILS VOICE! Devil is your enemy and he wants to dismantle your beautiful family, so as a strong warrior don’t give the enemy what he desires, instead fight the devil and evil thoughts in your head!
Men need to appreciate the women in their lives and honor them, love the apple in your hand because if you don’t change for the better, thank God for that woman in your life who carries your name, bared your children, if you don’t appreciate that Allah had multiplied you from one person to many, one day when its too late and all is gone you will realize that you were an ungrateful fool, and that instead of searching for other apples on other trees, you should have taken care of the apple you already had in your hands and failed to appreciate!